I am sure you have heard of "filling up your love bucket." Well, mine is E.M.P.T.Y. Truth is...it's been empty for quite some time now. As a wife and mother, I just feel like I don't have anything left to give and when I feel like that everyone suffers. My husband tries...and does all he can....but he works 60 hours a week....he is probably feeling pretty empty, too.
But...the children.....oh, the children...they take and take and take and take. A little "thank you" without any manipulation to get something they want would be SUPER! I'm tired....tired of their stuff all over the house, tired of them looking at me like I have lost my mind when I ask for the 1400th time to take the trash out, tired of all of it. Sick and tired.
I once tried to go on strike. The joke was on me....because these boys do not care if the dishes are washed, their clothes are clean, there is pee all over the bathroom, the floor is vacuumed, the furniture is dusted. It lasted months, because I'm pretty stubborn, but it was a waste of my time and just meant it was all a bigger mess when my strike ended.
Many times I have prayed that it goes back to them when they have kids, but who am I kidding? Their wives will be the ones suffering. They will get to go off to work every morning and avoid the mess and drama.
Sometimes I think that maybe I just wasted my time giving them chores. It would be a lot easier to just do it all myself and never expect any help. Teaching them how to do laundry and clean the bathroom is a lot of work...for me. Even with my older two all of their chores have to be supervised. It's just ridiculous.
It isn't just the cleaning and the chores. When I get home from grocery shopping today...I will have to hear that I didn't get any food. There will be great gnashing of teeth! They don't like their clothes, we have the wrong tv, they want smart phones, we don't do anything fun, etc.
At the end of the day...they want hugs, and to lay down and talk and fill them with encouragement. I'm just too tired after telling people to do what they are supposed to do! But as mom's...we don't have a choice. It is ALL on us.
When they don't turn out right...who gets blamed? You guessed it....MOM.